Here's a few thoughts on this holiday all about love and all sorts of relationships, compliments of PostSecret:
So the one thing that worried me when I started this blog, was the ever nagging question: is this blog project inclusive enough for friends, family, and strangers that don't happen to be dating anyone special? Am I being thoughtful, or am I being obnoxious with the potential schmaltz?
I didn't ever want this blog to be a source of le sigh, sort of disappointment for any single individual, because life without a mate is still filled with loving companionship and in addition, can be extremely rewarding and life-affirming. It allows you to experience extensive adventures without worrying about a partner. Heck, for most of my own life I have very much been single and felt, for the most part, fulfilled in a myriad of other ways: through friendship, hobbies, travel, etc. Every Valentine's Day, I only really received flowers from my father and didn't really have that special someone to share the holiday with.
So where my girls at? "Put 'cha hands up!" as Beyonce so famously sings. Throughout the years, my plus ones have mostly been my female friends: a continuing, steady stream of support. We've hiked, danced, dined out on the town, and commiserated over mediocre dates and those that we have truly cared for that never seemed to have measured up. In fact, I have attended all of my best friend's weddings without any real lover in the traditional sense of the word.
I think many of my readers out there are women. Specifically, I'd like to give a special shout-out to my nearest and dearest lady friends from coast to coast:
In NYC: Christina M, Kathleen B, and Michelle H.
In LA, Krupinski, Swallace, Liz Shimabukuro, and Kara M.
In Boston, Courtney G. and my roomie Leslie G.
Also, my feminist mantra for many years has been: "A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle" - Gloria Steinem (my mantra for years!)
Until then, I hope that everyone, no matter what their relationship status or feelings about romantic love at the time, will become a part of our inclusive reader community where you'll always be able to comment. We welcome anyone's perspective.
All my love,